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Articles > Self Development > Learning to be assertive
Learning to be assertive
Standing up for your rights and not being taken advantage of is one definition of being assertive.
12th August ,2007
| Do you have trouble saying no, even when you really should? Do you feel like people walk all over you? Do you have trouble keeping your temper under control? If you answered yes to any of the above questions, you might find it really helpful to learn about assertive communication. |
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If you're like most people you tend to be fairly indirect about expressing your feelings and needs. Perhaps as a child you were taught it was self-centered to talk about yourself. Maybe you're afraid to be direct, fearing people will be put off or you will run into conflict.
You blow up when someone disappoints you or you don't get your way. You don't want to let people treat you unfairly and you let them know it but with regret later on.
What is assertiveness?
It's a way of confronting the unpleasant or difficult without getting squashed or squashing others in the process. When you use assertiveness you can negotiate reasonable changes by stating directly what you think, feel and want. Assertiveness builds intimacy, solves interpersonal problems and increases honesty, requests and refusals in your relationships.
Of course, you can choose any number of alternatives to assertiveness. You can fake your feelings, suffer silently, retreat from others, manipulate them or demand your way. Ultimately these options are self-defeating and harmful to relationships.
How is Being Assertive different from Being Aggressive?
Being aggressive means standing up for yourself in ways that violate the rights of others.
Aggressive behavior is typically punishing, hostile, blaming, and demanding. It can involve threats, name-calling, and even actual physical contact. It can also involve sarcasm, catty comments, gossip and "slips of the tongue."
What causes people to avoid being assertive?
Most people are not assertive for fear of displeasing others and of not being liked. However, although you may avoid some immediate unpleasantness by not being assertive, you could also jeopardize the relationship in the long run if you refuse to assert yourself and then feel taken advantage of over and over again.
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